TAKING EACH STEP AT A TIME

This time last year things were really tough. I’d ridden out a rough 2017 both personally and professionally, and thought I was at the beginning of a period of growth. I knew I would need to make a major move in the next 6 months but believed I had myself set up to transition that period smoothly. Turns out life has a funny sense of humour…

Fast forward to the present day: I’ve just returned from a short vacation and couldn’t be happier to be home. Every morning I wake up here I am reminded of how much difference a year makes, of the importance of sticking to the plan, of the promise of patience and persistence, and the power of love to get us through any and everything. It sounds horribly corny but it’s true. This past year has been a massive personal experiment in trusting the process and of not giving up in the face of adversity, and you know what? It works. Even when it feels like it can’t possibly work out in the end, when the steps feel too big to take on, and every single path appears to lie in ruin, just keep taking one step at a time.

I have scaled my desires to my means, I strive for simplicity, and every day is a battle against the should-be’s/should-have’s/should-do’s. Yet, when I look at what I am, have, and do, I see that everything is exactly as it should be. Paying the rent feels a lot less like a burden without feeling like we have to do a ton of other things as well, and that’s the crux of the matter.

We live in a world that tells us we need to have more and do more, yet “more” is an illusory quantity that is impossible to attain. It is precisely because we can never reach it that we continue to chase it. And the more we chase more the deeper we internalise the message that we are inadequate (which is why we must strive for more), so that no matter how much we have and do we still feel inadequate. More precisely, we have allowed ourselves to believe that we are so inadequate that we do not deserve to be satisfied. And the truth is the opposite.

If we let go of the distractions to have/do/be more, it becomes easier to get to where we need to be. I swear, this shit keeps us so tied to ideas of being anything “more” than we are that we lose sight of what we really need. It is time to stop wanting more because we are enough. Exactly as we are, with everything we have, even if it’s not very much…

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